Being ignored and being unappreciated are not the same

[E9A7F3bD]

I am dismayed that both of you feel so unappreciated. I have seen what you have posted and that is NOT how I feel about your contributions! I have downloaded at least some of the files, and I have learned to expect something of quality when I see that either of you have a new post. I do not download absolutely everything, because: (1) I often have multiple versions of a movie already that have not been watched, and (2) right now I am once again running out of hard drive space, and (3) I have lost the time to download and compare files to figure out what is best and what I want to keep. I keep everything and run out of space.

Certainly some Releases will look like VHS, but sometimes that is the best that is available anyway. People can take what is available or ignore the movie entirely. I TAKE THE VHS. If it looks like a VHS, then that is motivation to find something better. At least they have the "VHS" to watch and find out if they like the movie. I remember very well the VHS era: many of the movies I first watched on VHS are still among my very favorite movies. Did I somehow enjoy those movies any LESS than I do watching them on 4k UHD? Of course not, that is absurd. There are so many movies that I have purchased on VHS + multiple DVDs + multiple BluRays + 4k UHD. Ultimately I have tried selling off duplicates to make breathing space, and I got rid of the once-watched 4k versions because I could get more money for them AND my viewing them had NOT increased my pleasure. I probably had the most joy from the first DVD, so I might as well keep THAT version for the sake of nostalgia. There are some movies that I only watch on VHS because that version has a different edit. (Actually I watch a downloaded rip because I foolishly discarded the last CRT TV I had that my VCRs would properly play back on. Even a component-to-HDMI adapter was not working to get playback with more modern TVs. So for the rarer VHS tapes I hunted down rips online.)

I am sorry I have not responded to your more recent posts but I have a long habit of posting and posting and posting, many times with very long messages. I am absolutely certain that many of my own posts are not read at all because they are too long, but only links are clicked. Lately I have had less time available and I thought it was a good opportunity for me to KEEP QUIET for once. Everyone has to devote time to "real life" too, not just "reel life". Right now I am worn out without the time or energy to devote enthusiasm to my enthusiasms. I am not mentally capable of writing positive messages, so I say nothing.

E9's supportive advice is spot on. People share because they want to, and they will not necessarily get anyone saying anything. Most people who are pleased with what they find here do not post any response. If they did, the threads would be overwhelmed with responses that say pretty much nothing beyond "thank you". There are movie-sharing sites that discourage or explicitly BAN that sort of post.

Skalman, I looked through your posts and noticed that you deleted some links that I KNOW I downloaded, and some of them I watched and KNOW were terrific! Please don't delete the links. You are under no obligation to keep sharing files forever. When you are done with it, you are done. That post should remain as a record of the file. When someone wants it in the future and it is no longer being shared on eMule, they can request a reshare and anyone can reshare it. ALL THE TIME I reshare files that came from Members who have not been here in YEARS.

E9, I confess that your technical knowledge FAR EXCEEDS MY OWN and that eventually I found many of your posts overwhelming. I simply could no longer say anything intelligent in response, so I said nothing. The FLM staff who can actually implement your suggestions is very small, and they may find that they prefer dealing with those issues when they have the time available rather than spending too much time talking about it. For godsakes you are certainly NOT hated! You present your case with such detail that there is not much more to SAY. Any changes will eventually get done, or they will not. You did your part by bringing up the issue!

See what I did now? Another damn long post where I just will not shut up. Both of you, please keep up your contributions. I have fielded private messages from other people who felt unappreciated so you are definitely NOT alone. I had to reassure them that was NOT the case at all because I knew that *I* at least was very pleased with their movies. There are plenty of reasons that most people just remain quiet and it has nothing to do with hostility or indifference. You made your concerns public, so I addressed them publicly in this here movie thread.

Cheers!

I think it is necessary to exist a thread alone instead of disrupting the original movie thread too many.

The first and most important point I want to say here is.
Being ignored and being unappreciated are completely different things.
They have very large differences in psychological expectations.

[E9A7F3bD]

I am sorry I have not responded to your more recent posts but I have a long habit of posting and posting and posting, many times with very long messages. I am absolutely certain that many of my own posts are not read at all because they are too long, but only links are clicked. Lately I have had less time available and I thought it was a good opportunity for me to KEEP QUIET for once. Everyone has to devote time to "real life" too, not just "reel life". Right now I am worn out without the time or energy to devote enthusiasm to my enthusiasms. I am not mentally capable of writing positive messages, so I say nothing.

You should not apologize nor need to apologize.
Replying to all posts is not your obligation, nor is it your alone obligation, even if you are the global moderator.
I won't ask you, but my advice is that as long as you have the ability, you try to be positive and inclusive, rather than trying to "educate" others to act/think in a certain way.
I think what is really worth "educating" is those who can naturally show kindness when facing goodwill.
Therefore, the subtle kindness in words and deeds is more convincing than those lengthy persuasion and debate.

If they did, the threads would be overwhelmed with responses that say pretty much nothing beyond "thank you".

I also don't think it's any bad thing for a thread to be flooded with "thanks".
The premise is that it is not "requested"!
Just like you were requested to "liked" to view the ed2k links, that's not really a "liked".
People should click on it when they really like and express their gratitude to the poster.
Now, "liked" number simply represents the number of downloads, not people's real "thanks".
So, as long as those flooded “Thanks” are not required by some kind of "View Restrictions", I think it is well worth it and has become rare today.

[E9A7F3bD]

Both of you, please keep up your contributions. I have fielded private messages from other people who felt unappreciated so you are definitely NOT alone. I had to reassure them that was NOT the case at all because I knew that *I* at least was very pleased with their movies. There are plenty of reasons that most people just remain quiet and it has nothing to do with hostility or indifference. You made your concerns public, so I addressed them publicly in this here movie thread.

Cheers!

Cheers what? Nothing to celebrate!
You absolutely haven't addressed anything!
This is a long-term and in-depth problem and cannot be easily solved in just a few words.

Comparing similar experiences and feelings among others is a "stupid" approach.
You will never and should never feel relieved just because others have the same feelings as you.
More importantly, you will never ignore the existence of this problem because of this.

You should realize that this is a clear signal of crisis in a community!
The change in direction of the virtuous and vicious cycles is very subtle and may not make any difference in a short period of time, but the long-term effects are indeed far-reaching.

In one respect, the reason for the silence is irrelevant; to the feeler, it is indifference!
But when people start keeping quiet about their feelings too, you realize the seriousness of the problem.
Deleting posts is just one of the least harmful of these consequences.

This is also why I open this thread alone. Anyone who checks this thread, you are not alone.

[ghost]

I'm starting to get a little angry.
Why do people always have to be so sensitive? Can't we just post films and discuss them? That's the purpose of this forum.

How many times do you think I've felt unappreciated when I've posted new stuff and no one has responded or even reacted? People are often like that. It doesn't mean they didn't like the movies. Some people are just too lazy. Let's all lighten up a bit.

I'm not going to reply 100 lines because I don't think it's necessary,

We are not in kindergarden. Period.

[E9A7F3bD]

Why do some people just don’t understand the truth that even kindergarten kids knows?

Yes, as an administrator, you have the right to decide on the type of content post here, or to drive away people you don't like.

But don’t forget that this identity also means that your words and deeds are also a mirror for creating and reflecting the atmosphere of the community.

I don't care if you're angry or not, I appreciate a lot of content you posted, but at the same time I try to avoid any direct interaction with you as much as possible because I don't feel good!

One type of person loves to blame the problem on the oversensitivity of others, and I think it's clear to those who understand this.

This is a community, not a factory, where people communicate, engage in activities, not numbly production of goods!

[E9A7F3bD]

I am not mentally capable of writing positive messages, so I say nothing.

Don't think nobody cares about that.
This is a striking signal for me.
Sorry, I didn't express my concern for you first.

It is also an important reason for me to seriously discuss these issues.
Burying emotional and mental problems is not good for us at all.

This is supposed to be a place where we seek and get comfort.
Relax and entertain your body and mind by watching your favorite movies.
But the impact of any community made up of people cannot be ignored.

[E9A7F3bD]

but I have a long habit of posting and posting and posting, many times with very long messages. I am absolutely certain that many of my own posts are not read at all because they are too long, but only links are clicked.

I don't know anyone else.
But I dare say that I have definitely spent a lot more time reading your text than click the links.
I absolutely appreciate the long text content (except AI-generated nonsense), and I even read it repeatedly to avoid the information I didn't absorb all at once. This is also why I responded to different paragraphs in multiple times.
Remember, now is an era where information generated by humans is more precious than AI!

[E9A7F3bD]

Die Hard - You hang in there!

One movie I thought of is:
System Crasher (2019)

[Night457]

Thank you for creating a new thread outside of the movie forums, which is something that *I* ought to have done in the first place. There is far too much here for me to thoughtfully consider today. I will make a few quick comments.

But I dare say that I have definitely spent a lot more time reading your text than click the links.
I absolutely appreciate the long text content (except AI-generated nonsense), and I even read it repeatedly to avoid the information I didn't absorb all at once.

I can readily admit that many of my always purely human-generated long posts are still a lot of nonsense and even I do not want to reread them. I certainly do not blame anyone who would simply skim past a text wall when they just want to get to the movies. I am glad you appreciate at least a little of my verbiage, as I certainly have not shared many movies lately.

Cheers what? Nothing to celebrate!

I did not think the single-word valediction of my post was the most important part and by that time I was beyond cleverness. I could have also said "fare thee well" but language that archaic does not come quite so naturally to me. Rather than trying to explain exactly what I meant or my making a massive quote from another site, instead you can check out this link if you wish:
https://www.think-english.co.uk/post/ch ... slang-word

[E9A7F3bD]

I did not think the single-word valediction of my post was the most important part and by that time I was beyond cleverness. I could have also said "fare thee well" but language that archaic does not come quite so naturally to me.

Yes, I'm aware of that. I admit I just borrowed it to express my emotions.